Grief and Healing
Learn healthy ways to cope with a loss of a loved one.
In the days, weeks, and months following the death of a loved one, people continue to need others to lean on for understanding, encouragement, and guidance. To help those who grieve, BELLOWS FUNERAL CHAPEL offers the following resources to help families cope after the loss of a loved one.
· A complete listing of area support groups that assist families and individuals coping with grief
· Complimentary brochures geared to the specific type of loss
· A comprehensive online grief library in coordination with the Center for Loss & Life Transition, the nation’s foremost institution of grief education
Learn How to Help a Friend Grieve
A friend has experienced the death of someone loved. You want to help, but you are not sure how to go about it. This article will guide you in ways to turn your cares and concerns into positive actions.
Listen with your heart.
Your friend may relate the same story about the death over and over again. Listen attentively each time. Realize this repetition is part of your friend's healing process. Simply listen and understand.
Allow your friend to experience all the hurt, sorrow and pain that he or she is feeling at the time. Enter into your friend's feelings, but never try to take them away. And recognize that tears are a natural and appropriate expression of the pain associated with the death. .
Understand the uniqueness of grief.
Because the grief experience is also unique, be patient. The process of grief takes a long time, so allow your friend to proceed at his or her own pace. Don't force your own timetable for healing. Don't criticize what you believe is inappropriate behavior. And while you should create opportunities for personal interaction, don't force the situation if your grieving friend resists.
Offer practical help.
Don't just attend the funeral then disappear, however. Remain available in the weeks and months to come, as well. Remember that your grieving friend may need you more later on than at the time of the funeral. A brief visit or a telephone call in the days that follow are usually appreciated.
Write a personal note.
Share a favorite memory of the person who died.
Be aware of holidays and anniversaries.
Your friend and the family of the person who died sometimes create special traditions surrounding these events. Your role? Perhaps you can help organize such a remembrance or attend one if you are invited.
Understanding the importance of the loss.